A: It sounds as if you have been hurt a lot in the past.
What exactly do you mean by a 'nice man'? Does it mean one who is looking for a committed monogamous relationship? Perhaps trying to find this sort of man in a bar or pub is part of your problem. Many people - both men and women look at visiting bars and pubs as a fun, no strings attached activity. Men hope to find a woman who is as equally excited as themselves by the prospect of an exciting one night stand. Whilst not rejecting out of hand a man met in a bar or pub, some careful enquiry as to his marital status and what he is looking for may help you sort the wheat from the chaff! Going to bars and pubs is fun and a buzz, but it may not be the best place to meet someone with whom you can have a long term relationship.
What are your other options then? At work, through friends, joining a society of like minded people, internet dating, pursuing an interest, taking classes or joining a club. It is important to keep an open mind. Don’t dismiss the idea of joining a history society because you think all the male members will be fat, bald, anorak wearing nerds!
Remember, the happier you are within yourself and the more self-sufficient you seem the more attractive you will appear. The girls who are desperate for a boyfriend with the big sign on their heads saying 'LOVE ME' will repel many guys - or attract like a magnet the wrong sort of man!

All you need is Love!